Up next is the Will / Heart Centre – listen up because chances are you have this open. ⅞ people do!
If you have this open, you can really struggle with sticking to things. You might find you start things but don’t finish them, or you fall off the wagon a lot. You might struggle with self-worth – charging for your services, asking for your fee on a sales call, overdelivering in a way that feels heavy and unhealthy after awhile, or offering more than what they’re paying for so that you can feel good about what you’re offering.
You’ll likely struggle with closing sales especially if you’re selling yourself.
So…how can we turn this into our superpowers?
First – what are the superpowers of the Will?
With this centre open, you have the ability to know who or what is worthy of your time and attention. You get a sense of who has self worth, often the lack of worth you feel around others is you reflecting THEIR lack of self worth.
Is part of your work to help people tap into their worth? You can use your open will as a way to help them feel worthy.
And as for willpower and sticking with things – remember to always make decisions for what you commit to from strategy and authority – those will tell you whether you’ll have the long term energy to carry out a project or idea to the finish line. Often you fall off the wagon because you didn’t really have the energy to carry out the thing to begin with!
Turning it into your superpower takes the following steps:
First, slow things down in your life – if you’re not already doing so, start to either meditate or just take 5 Minute Silent Chambers throughout your day where you are not troubled by anything or anyone and you have a chance to allow the running thoughts to die down a bit.
Then you can start to become aware of where you might be in the unhealthy splenic state.
Things you might say to yourself:
I have to be in control.
I have to PUSH through this.
I need to pump myself up so I feel good about myself.
I need to show my loyalty towards others, so I’ll agree to participate even though I don’t want to.
I’m not good enough unless I prove it.
Journal questions to ask yourself:
Am I always trying to prove myself?
Am I trying to prove that I’m a good person, parent, employee, partner, coach/business owner etc?
Do I make promises to people that I just can’t keep but I’m afraid if I don’t they’ll reject me?
Am I feeling a lack of self worth because the person I was with feels it?
Am I willing myself to complete / stay / stick to what I said I was going to – but I really, really don’t want to?
Journal on the above questions, and start to observe what comes up for you – is there something you really need to break off but aren’t sure how to? This is where having a support network would be critical for you. A good friend, coach, mentor or therapist. Someone who will not let you fall back into old patterns and who will keep you accountable would be best – Open Will is a difficult centre to navigate so don’t be afraid to ask for help!
Once you start to notice all the areas this pattern is playing out in your life you can start to make positive change and let go of the things that no longer feel good to you so you can bring in the stuff that is healthy and in alignment.
Profit Potential – using this as a spidey sense in any kind of sales or marketing situation means that you can get a sense of whether or not the person you’re about to do business with is worthy of your time, investment, referral etc. You can see/sense self worth in others and you’ll know who can make and keep promises.
One thing to note – you may have some of these patterns even if yours is “defined” (coloured in). It’s because you’re likely not following your strategy & authority so you exacerbate the lack of self worth within you (or worth of others). Whatever you learn about your design, always remember your strategy & authority.
Thanks for taking the tour around the Will Centre! Up next – The Root Centre & The Pressure to Keep Up