We start our journey with The Spleen because this is where many of our fears are based.
When you have this area open, you’ll experience things like holding onto relationships, contracts, projects, clients, spouses, partners etc way longer than healthy for you. It takes you a little longer than others who have this defined to realize someone or something is healthy or unhealthy for you. You’ll likely have a sense elsewhere in your body, like your intuition, but having this centre open will make it harder for you to realize it until later.
Because of this tendency to hold on, you might find yourself in codependent relationships that offer you a feel-good factor. They make you feel safe somehow, so you hang on.
You might be rigid and lack flexibility in your beliefs or stance in life.
The Spleen has seven fear gates that can further exacerbate a feeling of uncertainty in your life – fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of what’s to come or fear of repeating the past, fear of being responsible for things you don’t want to be responsible for or fear of losing responsibility.
So…how can we turn this into our superpowers?
First – what are the superpowers of the Spleen?
With this centre open, you have a spidey sense of who is HEALTHY and who is not. You are able to confront your fears, you know how to use your strategy & authority to decide what to hold onto and what to let go of. You also can let go of rigid beliefs and see the possibility in what life brings you!
Splenic power is all about instant instinct. Survival instinct. The fight or flight messaging system we all have within us.
Turning it into your superpower takes the following steps:
First, slow things down in your life – if you’re not already doing so, start to either meditate or just take 5 Minute Silent Chambers throughout your day where you are not troubled by anything or anyone and you have a chance to allow the running thoughts to die down a bit so you can hear what your best next step is.
Then you can start to become aware of where you might be in the unhealthy splenic state.
Things you might say to yourself:
“I’m not going to do that because I don’t feel secure enough, or I feel scared every time I think of that”
“I’m afraid I will feel not good enough if I do this”
“I’m not going to do this thing because I’m afraid what the outcome will be, I’m afraid to be rejected or criticized, I’m afraid of making the same mistake again so I’ll just avoid it”
Journal questions to ask yourself:
Am I in a partnership, contract or relationship with someone/thing people have told me isn’t good for me?
Am I dependent on this partnership, contract or relationship to provide me with a sense of safety and security?
Do my fears overrule my life and hold me back from what I really want to do?
Journal on the above questions, and start to observe what comes up for you – is there something you really need to break off but aren’t sure how to? This is where having a support network would be critical for you. A good friend, coach, mentor or therapist. Someone who will not let you fall back into old patterns and who will keep you accountable would be best – leaving relationships of this kind can be challenging, so be sure you’re supported! Same goes if you’re holding yourself back because of fear!!!
Once you start to notice all the areas this pattern is playing out in your life you can start to make positive change and let go of the things that no longer feel good to you so you can bring in the stuff that is healthy and in alignment.
Profit Potential – using this as a spidey sense in any kind of sales or marketing situation means that you can get a sense of whether or not the person you’re about to do business with is able to trust themselves, has a sense of well-being and knows how to crush through fear. If you’re looking to enrol clients for your coaching business, even though you will be cultivating this in them, it’s good to know where you’re starting from. You will be able to deeply and quickly intuit who is fearful and who isn’t. You will know immediately who is safe and who isn’t.
One thing to note – you may have some of these patterns even if yours is “defined” (coloured in). It’s because you’re likely not following your strategy & authority so you exacerbate the fears within you (or fears of others). Whatever you learn about your design, always remember your strategy & authority.
Thanks for taking the tour around the Splenic Centre! Up next – The Head Centre and Shiny Object Syndrome