An exiting and humbling revelation came to me yesterday. 

I realized that whenever I stop myself from being smarter, better, quicker, prettier, skinnier, have more money than someone else I am also stopping other people from being THIER best person.

When I dim my light, so not to hurt someone’s feelings, so they don’t judge me, so they don’t think “who the hell does she think she is” (and believe me – I’ve had plenty of THAT bullshit my life) I am giving other people permission to NOT be their most brilliant selves.

A few months ago, after my mom died, a very clear, strong voice came into my head. It said to me “you are here to show women that it’s OK”. Intuitively I knew it meant that it’s ok to eat food you love, to take care of ourselves, to make money, to charge money, to quit the jobs we hate, to not be friends with people who don’t light us up, to speak our minds, to love our bodies as they are, and to let our freak flag fly. 

I am not sure why I was chosen to give this message to you, but here I am. With this insatiable need to educate and inspire you. Every day I am thinking of new ways to help you be a better person.

But here’s the kicker.

At the same time, I am not allowing myself to be my best version of myself because I don’t want to outshine you. I don’t want you to feel bad in my presence. And secretly, deep down, I want you to like me. 

If I speak my truth, some of you won’t like it. 

But the lesson I learned yesterday was who gives a fuck? If I don’t speak my truth, you won’t like it either. You’ll sense something is off but not know what. 

So either way I’m screwed.

So I decided to be a leader. To be an influencer. To demonstrate that you CAN do all the things you want to do in your little heart and mind.

It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

I want you to tell me in the comments below how you are dimming your light. What are you not sharing, saying, doing that you oh so wish you could but just don’t think you can or should. Whose voice is silencing you? And how can you SHINE?

Share below. Let’s revolutionize this.